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Does birdnesting fit into your child custody arrangement?

On behalf of North Tampa Legal Group posted in child custody on Thursday, November 29, 2018.

Florida couples often struggle deciding what to do with the marital home after a divorce. Should one person keep it, and if so, whom? Should they sell it and split the profits? A new child custody trend gives parents a third option — let the kids keep it.

Instead of shuffling the kids back and forth between mom and dad’s houses after a divorce, birdnesting involves maintaining the family home as a stable space for the children. Instead, parents rotate in and out. This is seen as a way to give children a more stable transition during an otherwise extremely difficult part of their lives. Parents usually maintain a separate residence — often an apartment — as well, although they never occupy the same space at the same time.

While it may seem like a strange approach, experts say the benefits are tremendous. Kids can keep their regular routines like bedtime, extracurricular activities and mealtimes, and may experience less separation anxiety. Rules and consequences will likely remain consistent, leading to less confusion and anger in children and teens.

Although this approach is not suitable for Florida couples who went through a highly contentious divorce, it can be a viable option for those who were amicable throughout the process. However, like with all things pertaining to child custody, this option should be considered with the children’s best interests at heart. It is not necessarily a fall-back option for a home that will not sell or a stand in as couples bicker about what the final custody agreement should like.